Friday, 3 May 2013

RAK 103 - awknowledging the unknowing...

April 13,

Do you ever have those serendipitous moments that make you FULLY grasp that there is ALWAYS something bigger going on than what you can see in the present moment?

Today's RAK has to do with acknowledging one of those such moments with the oblivious orchestrator...  And letting her know that even in her unknowing... she did something very very profound. 

Due to the personal nature of this one, I don't wish to share many details...

In short, a conversation was forced between two people who might not have otherwise reconnected after a couple of years of no communication... and it was all done by chance...



On Behalf of the Kornel/Peters Family

RAK 102 - Kindness for a Kindness

April 12

The wife does not typically work on Fridays, but on this day she was in to meet some deadlines.  Conveniently on this day there were some coworkers heading to the local Brewhouse for a beer after work (tell me she didn't plan that right).  So we worked till we were done what needed to be done and then headed over to join those who were already into their lunch and beers.  Of course arriving later meant that the table was already pretty full, but we pulled over some chairs and squished in at the end and ordered a beer.

Kindness Received; at the table next too us say two other guys who were also enjoying their Friday afternoon beers.  Upon noticing our situation these two generously offered to move to another small table across the bar so that we could pull their table over and have more room with our group.  Such a great move, and we were so grateful to them.

Kindness Returned; this kindness needed to be returned, thanks was just not enough. So when the waitress returned we asked her to take a round to the other table on us.  She went over and let them know we were buying a round and they were surprised and elated.

RAK 102 is about recognizing kindness, receiving kindness, and returning kindness.  


RAK 101 -Flowers?

April 11

I know that I have mentioned that I work in an office FULL of men...  haha Poor me right?!

This day I was in our weekly technical meeting and one team member was noticeably absent.  I knew he would be away, because the day before I was chatting with him and he mentioned he needed to go in for some emergency surgery.

When I mentioned the surgery to the fellas in the technical meeting this morning, none of them seemed to know anything about it.

I work for a very small company... one of the ones that still sends flowers to hospitals for things such as this... So I got thinking... If THEY don't know, then I suspect the person who arranges the flowers likely hadn't been alerted either.

I chatted to a few of the right people, and they got all the proper approvals and the flowers were sent...

I hope they brightened his spirits...!



On Behalf of the Kornel/Peters family

RAK 100 - She IS precious

April 10

Through my online connections I have met a lovely girl named Brandi.  Brandi, and many others like her are completely committed to ending Human Trafficking through the She's Worth It organization.

Our RAK 90 (click here) was a small part of helping fund the trip she is on right now...

I have been following her journey on Facebook, and have shed many a tear reading her posts and watching her videos as she goes around to brothels is Cambodia, Thailand and then India.

As a mom, when I watched this video...  I had to put my head down on my desk and weep...

For today's RAK I shared Brandi's video's on Facebook, and talked to so many people about the atrocities that are presently going on in such places.

Awareness is key.  Please spread the word.  This must stop.  In our country, this is rape.

She's Worth It



On Behalf of The Kornel/Peters Family

RAK 99 - Mom Pact

April 9

When we committed to doing this 365 days of Random Acts of Kindness... I new it would be a challenge...  Not only to keep it up, but also to so openly share much of our day to day lives...

It is important to me that anyone who reads these posts knows that, although it is my desire to share the good stuff with you, we are still living life over here, and the crappy stuff still comes up.

I have teenagers in the house, and with that comes teenage problems and concerns...  Anyone who has parented teens can relate I am sure.

We have a rule in our house that allows our kids to ask for 60 seconds.  During that 60 seconds they are allowed to say anything... confess anything... and not be disciplined for what they are confessing.  We will surely talk about their confession, but, as parents, we are not at liberty to ground them or take things away because of what they have confessed.

When/if we find out something that they did, and chose to not take their 60 seconds to confess before we found it out, then they face the wrath of the Super Angry Parents...

Also...  we live in a small town, and we know lots of people in it... so, there is always a pretty good chance that we will find out things...

On this day and over the course of the last few days - I made a 'Mom Pact' with several Mom's of my children's friends.  It's an "If you were ever in doubt, don't be because I want to know" sort of thing...

If we keep the kids talking, and the mom's talking...  we may just have a chance at getting through this in tact.



On behalf of The Kornel/Peters Family

RAK 98 - Happy Stacey Day!

April 8

Today is Stacey Day!  :)  On this day - 29 years ago .. or so :) this world became a much brighter place because Stacey was brought into it.

Unfortunately our paths would not cross until a decade and a half later... but cross they did.  We went to high school together, later became college room mates and have been the best of friends ever since.

Our apartment just off Whyte Ave, with the green bathtub and the strange landlord, would be the birthplace of a beautiful friendship that started out with late night conversations over strawberry tea and dill pickle popcorn...

... and evolved into what we share today.  She is truly the sister I never had...

There are four of us that have remained so very close since we graduated from High School...  and Everyday I wake up feeling so grateful I came to know these amazing women.

We have grown up together,  we learned about life together, we have laughed together, we have cried together, and we have laughed so hard we cried together...  We were friends before careers, marriage, and motherhood...

Geography and life makes it so we can't see each other every day, but when we get together, it is like we were never apart.

then (hehe)

now <3

The past few months have really tested Stacey's courageous and beautiful spirit... In ways no one can imagine unless they have been tested in the same manner.

Today's RAK is in compete celebration of her...

made for her - with so much love

I chose the word 'grace' as that is exactly how she maneuvers herself through this life, no matter what lies in her path.  She completely exemplifies all that that word suggests... and so much more.

I love you so much dear girl... and may this lap around the sun be filled only with peace.

Forever <3


On behalf of the Kornel/Peter's Family

RAK 97 - I got your back...

April 7

I think sometimes in life maybe when we are having a bad day, or a bad couple of days, a bad week, or perhaps even a longer stint of 'bad' or discomfort...

We wonder
What the heck does this mean?
Why is this happening?
What am I to learn?
and the biggy... What is MY purpose in all of this?

Depending on our perspective, sometimes it is hard to see the 'good' or the lesson, and if you can't see the 'good' or the lesson, then it is really hard to see your purpose in it...  I am a huge purveyor of the idea that if you can change your perspective, you can change everything... without changing anything at all in the physical realm.  It's more than just 'Look on the bright side' ... It's 'Look FOR the bright side.'  Always.

It's refusing to feel shame, and refusing to hide, and refusing to be defeated... It's shining light in dark places, and gently cleaning up what is there and not hiding it.  Only yucky things can grow in dark places.  It's about loving yourself... ALL parts of yourself... the strong parts, and the weak parts, and realizing that ALL those parts valuable and essential to who you are, they make you YOU.  It's saying "this is me, I like me, accept me as I am, or don't, but this is me. I won't change that just to see you smile."  It's about blocking out the lies you have been telling yourself forever, and living completely in your own truth.

Sure, great words... fantastic idea...  but REALLY hard to do... and sometimes it can be alot of freakin work...

The events of this day forced a perspective change... and I caught a glimpse of my purpose in a set of less than ideal circumstances...  Circumstances that - had they not been so - I would not have been in the right place, at the right time today...

For today's RAK I was able to tell a child - who wasn't my own - that I had his back... and then really prove it.  I was later then able to reiterate to him that I would always have his back...

He needed to know that.

It lead me to say out loud... "Ok, I get it."

Always learning.



On behalf of the Kornel/Peters Family


RAK 96 - Truth card exchange

April 6

What person couldn't use a few words of encouragement? In my online art community, we are often exchanging small piece of our original art that contain words of encouragement.  We refer to them as 'Truth Cards', and these cards are meant to be kept on hand to read when you need a little reminder of what is true, what isn't, what matters, and what really doesn't.

For those who don't really know what a 'truth card' is, here are some examples ...

For today's RAK, I ignored the fact that I am so busy with work and kids... I answered the call to send out encouraging words to others and signed up to be a part of a Truth Card exchange.

I will be mailing my cards out to some other Brave Girl on the list... and it will be another way this group of like minded women to connect and love each other from afar.

And getting the envelopes in the mail is SO exciting!



On behalf of the Kornel/Peters Family.

Thursday, 2 May 2013

RAK 95 - Stand up to a Facebook Bully

April 5

Ahhhh...  Friday...  My day off.  I haven't been taking them due to the fact that work has been so busy, and I have too much to do...  But this Friday, I took off.

I was doing my normal Facebook skim in the morning while drinking my coffee... and a post caught my eye... I totally did the double take, and scrolled back to the post to see if my eyes had mistaken me.

They didn't.

Even though I am not normally one to speak up, this day I stood up to an adult who was blatantly bullying a child right there on Facebook.

Please people...

  • NEVER post pictures of other people's children on your Facebook wall ...  You might be fine with putting your children's pictures up, but not everyone is.
  • Never use FB as a place to express your grievances.  Pick up the phone, or better yet ... If you don't have anything nice to say, then just say nothing.
  • Be respectful...  Treat other people how you want to be treated - and treat their kids how you would want them to treat yours. No exceptions.
I strongly believe that in order to stop bullying, parents have to be willing to set a better example for their kids... in person and in the cyber world...

Making fun of people is not cool, and doing it in front of your kids is just a whole bunch of wrong.

Thinking about this event gets me all riled up, but today I am reminding myself to live by my own words...  

...Just love...  

...and that HAS to mean even loving the bully's...

Loving them so they can heal from whatever it is that makes them want to hurt others.

Deep breath.

Always learning;


On behalf of the Kornel/Peters Family

RAK 94 - The Walking Dead for you...

April 4

If you spend much time with our family, it doesn't take long to notice that many of the members are Zombie crazed.  Many of our dinner conversations turn to Zombie Apocalypse Survival strategies ... and that's about when I tune out.

I am the one who flat out refuses to watch any scary movies.  I have been known to walk out of movie theaters, or leave the couch in the credits when my conviction is waned and I allow myself to be convinced to 'just try watching this one'.

When I suggested one day - trying to contribute to the Zombie Apocalypse conversation - that I wasn't sure I could bring myself to defeat a zombie with a stake through the heart...  I was ALMOST kicked out of my family...  (apparently that's a vampire thing .. who knew?!) 

In that moment I was flat out warned by Jeremy ... in the most loving way possible I am sure... "In the Zombie Apocalypse it is every man for himself, don't expect me to save your a$$ because your refusal to watch scary movies leaves you uneducated." (jerk - and I too mean that in a loving way ;) ) - oi, just feed me to the zombies already....

Then came The Walking Dead -

We caught the first episode by fluke...  He saw Zombies and stopped flipping channels... I protested at first... but then kinda got hooked...  I found myself liking the characters through covered eyes and cringes, and was rooting for them to survive in this scary new world..

For today's RAK I went to Chapters online and ordered The Compendium of The Walking Dead graphic novels that was missing from Jeremy's collection. Then to get free shipping I added a copy of 'The Rise of the Governor".  :)

All joking aside ... I am married to this amazing guy who loves and supports my every endeavor, who is my biggest cheerleader in life, and who completely sees and respects my heart.  He is an amazing father, a fantastic cook... and he brings me coffee in bed every. single. morning.  I am married to him... but I still get to be me.  Every day I open my eyes feeling grateful that I get to be his wife.  This token of my affection was very small...  but I know it meant alot to him.

... and secretly I am kinda hoping he will change his mind about the 'saving my a$$' thing.

Hehe <3


On behalf of the Kornel/Peters Family

RAK 93 - Silk Painting and Moroccan... Count me in!

April 3

The female members of the K-P family are all deeply n love with getting their hands dirty with a little acrylic paint...  We have created a space in our basement that is called our 'Art Room'.  It is where we celebrate 'ish' art (Thanks Peter Reynolds), and spend much time down there just being together.  Peace lives there.

In all the art classes I have taken, I can honestly say I have never heard of silk painting...  When I heard about a class being offered, and that it was of something I had never even heard about before, I was instantly 'in.'. 

To top it off, the hosting venue as also offering a three course Moroccan meal...  Something else I had never tried, I said "heck ya!"

Expressionz Cafe! AWESOME!!

It was a little late on a school night to bring my wee ones... so I called my mom, and she accepted!  Ladies night out it is!  Then my coworker/friend also stepped up to say she would like to come, so - table for three please!

We ate dinner, drank wine, chatted alot, and painted on silk! and it was awesome!

the finished products by us and our classmates...!

 Today's RAK is about taking my mom out on a last minute and impromptu laddie's night, and supporting a program in a cafe that completely supports the arts.



On Behalf of the Kornel/Peters family

and we encourage you to check out Expressions Cafe!

Wednesday, 1 May 2013

RAK 92 - Let Them Eat Cake ... er bunny

April 2

Phew first day back at school following spring break and Easter !  Which means of course two little girls begging me to put Easter chocolates in their school lunches, to which I have to say no, then listen to the complaining and whining.  But that is part of parenting ... right.

hmmm well I guess I could be extra kind and sneak some into their lunch bags for them :)  So that is today's RAK, I put some chocolate into the girls lunch kits to surprise them at lunch.  Enjoy girls !!

PS. It is Nana and Papa's anniversary today, Happy Anniversary !!!!

RAK 91 - Hehe... you April Fools...

April 1

So what kid doesn't love this day? 

Oh my gosh.... I have visions of children everywhere planning and scheming up practical jokes galore to play on their parents...  because they know this might be THE ONLY day of the year they will get away with it...

Other kids do that too right?? ... Not just mine??..

Well this day started off a little different than usual...  I woke up first (I KNOW... hard to believe right?! - that's not even an April Fools joke) ... anyway... I woke up first and went down to make coffee...  (uh -huh... that's what I said... I went down to make coffee... after 13 years of him making it, I figured it was my turn ... :) )

So my early rising girls were as shocked as the next guy that I was up first, and they come clambering into the kitchen...  "NO MOM... DO NOT turn on the tap!"  I was all confused, because I hadn't yet realized it was April Fools day, I couldn't figure out what all the fuss was about.  Then I spotted it...

That elastic holding down the button on the sink sprayer - with the sink sprayer pointed right at me... and my hand positioned ready to turn on the tap.

"OH...!"  I said... and worked around their little trap and took the coffees upstairs. - Thinking to myself 'RAK complete for the day'...

For the next little while... I sat in my room and giggled as every boy in our house fell victim to the girls prank ... Every boy in our house squealed in surprise at their involuntary and unwanted kitchen shower!  Every. Single. One.

Girl Power.



On Behalf of the Kornel/Peters Family...


Just as an aside...  here is an awesome prank by my boys caught on tape.. this was on fathers day...  the little brats...

Is it wrong that I giggle hysterically whenever I watch this??

RAK 90 - She IS worth it.

March 31

It still shocks me to know that sex slavery still exists in this world... That every day, so many women are being bought and sold in the sex trafficking industry.

As a mother of three daughters, who are about the age when, if we lived in a different geographic region... There lives would look VERY different than they do right now.

The only thing that makes those girls different than mine - me different than their mothers - is geography...

Every girl deserves to know that they alone are worth - whatever it takes- to make this stop.

Click here to get yours!

I am not naive enough to think that simply buying a necklace is going to change the world.  But I am smart enough to know that talking about it, and bringing awareness to this issue is where the changes need to start.

Today I bought this beautiful necklace with hopes that in some small way it has made a bit of a difference...

Yours loudly,


On behalf of the Kornel/Peters Family.

RAK 89 - rest in peace sweet Aunty.

March 30

Today we witnessed the very real and heartfelt display of love, gratitude and adoration for a wife, mom, grandma, great grandma, sister, aunt, and friend. Today we gathered to celebrate the beautiful life of my Aunty Helen Rachar. 

We laughed and we cried through tributes given by her children, her grandchildren, her great grandchildren, her friends and her Pastor. We heard how she loved to laugh, how she easily forgave, how she was never too busy, and how she lived for her family.

We sat and listened as my Uncle Lloyd - who always told a really great story - read to us the last love letter he would ever write to his beloved. He shared his heart with us, he told us how he was "hopelessly and helplessly
 captivated by her beautiful blue eyes, her little turned up nose, her pigtail braids and her many other charms." He loved her - completely - for nearly 80 years.

We caught a glimpse of their lega
cy... That was deeply rooted in my Uncle Lloyd's proclamation "the best thing we can do for our children is love their mother." - and that he did.

Today, we witnessed a REAL love story. The real deal. Love in its truest and purest form. For that, I am grateful.

I know she was looking down from heaven with her heart swelling with pride at all that she created here on earth.

Rest in peace sweet Aunty.

After the service was over, I went to sit with my Uncle a little before we had to leave...  He never had her photo to far away...  He would stop in mid sentence and say "Oh look, is there any wonder why I loved her, she looks just like a movie star."

Today's Random Act of kindness is about being completely present in that moment...  It is about directing 100% of my attention towards someone who had some very important things to share - his heart... and knowing that in that moment...  absolutely nothing else mattered.  It's about not really caring if 'that' tear is the one that will mess up your mascara, or if the lap full of kleenex will leave lint on your black dress...  It's about saying 'I love you' and 'I am so so sorry for your loss'... not just with your mouth, but with your heart.  It is about sitting there and holding his hand and not being the first to let go...

As her lovely granddaughter said at the service... 
"Dr. Suess tells us ~ Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened ~ Yeah right Dr. Suess... I am pretty sure we are going cry because it is over... For a little while anyway..."



On behalf of The Kornel/Peters Family

RAK 88 - Melody's Boots

March 29

This day was a good day...

It was Dahlia House Auction Day...  (click here) and there was LOTS of good stuff up for grabs...!  - Yes I was the successful bidder on a few items ... so I was happy about that... but that is not all that made this day good...

I was brought into a Facebook conversation that was full of many many brave girls - all united for one purpose... To pool our money together, and bid on Melody's Boots, and then gift them back to her. - We had agreed if we get the boots for less than what we raise - we will donate the surplus to the Dahlia House... and if we ended up not being the highest bidder, we will donate all of our funds raised back to the Dahlia House.

Someone stepped up and agreed to take charge of receiving the money, and then the donations started to pour in.  We were adding Brave Girl Friend after Brave Girl Friend into this conversation... and everyone was a buzz.  We almost crashed Facebook with our high volumes of chatter...  We finally had to move the conversation over to a 'group' so Facebook would stop giving us warning messages...

In all of it, something beautiful was happening...  We were all connecting...  I was meeting so many new Brave Girls that I had never met before... and it was awesome!

We ended up raising around $5000 for the boots, and felt so excited for the auction so we could set our plan in motion. We SO badly wanted to give our beloved Melody those boots ... to do something nice for someone who so selflessly does so much for others.

We headed into the auction with a plan, and a goal..  We watched all day as we drove the bid up for the boots...  In the end, their was an anonymous bidder that would win the boots by out bidding us in the last few minutes of the auction.  We did not get the boots, but we walked away with something WAY more...  A huge huge lovefest right there on Facebook...

A perfect example of what being a Brave Girl means...

Melody's late night Facebook Status...  In the middle of the night...they dream of a million kites...flying high above the sadness on the the middle of the night we try and try with all our light a little light down here....................... ♥ we did it, girls. ALL OF US, TOGETHER. I LOVE YOU EACH AND EVERY ONE!!!!!!

Today's RAK is my purchasing of various auction items, my donation to the boot fund, my involvement with setting up the Facebook group, and just overall being a small part of this huge Brave Girl Movement!

With Love


on Behalf of the Kornel/Peters Family

Lend your voices only to sounds of freedom
No longer lend you strength to that which you wish to be free from
Fill your lives with love and bravery
And you shall lead a live uncommon
 Life Uncommon by Jewel

Update: Melody blogged about how she found out about what we did...  read her words here... Such an amazing story...

Also...  After being contacted by multiple Brave Girls - Melody's story reached its way up to Old Gringo himself, and he sent her a brand new pair of her favorite style of boot... Now THAT is pretty great... there website, and their Facebook Page...

RAK 87 - Spread the word about the Dahlia house Auction

March 28

I know we have mentioned the Dahlia House before in a previous post (click here to read.)

The Brave Girls Club, together with Full Circle Exchange, and She is Worth It have been trying to raise enough money to help Wipe Every Tear purchase a house in Manilla - Dahlia house - so it can be used for a safe house - to help women who have been rescued from human trafficking.

Here is a video explaining more:

They are in the eleventh hour of their fundraising, and are finding themselves short of their goal.  They are hosting an online auction.  Melody herself has put up for auction - her most prized possession...  Her Old Gringo's.

Read about it here

 For Today's RAK, I promoted this online auction, and encouraged so many people to have a look at the items that will be up for sale...  and then to be part of the bidding once the auction started.

 The money was going to a very worthwhile and worthy cause...  SHE IS worth it.

To donate - click here



On behalf of the Kornel/Peters family.

Update:  The Auction raised enough money to make the Dahlia House a reality!  Something for everyone to be SO proud of!

RAK 86 - Without Even Knowing It

March 27

It is spring break for the kids kids in Beaumont this week.  And today, and all week actually, the big brothers have been committing acts of kindness without even knowing it!  Which makes the acts even more amazing.  With Coreena and I both working this week, and busier that ever, the kids have been left to their own devices for their time off school.  This means breakfast and lunch on their own.  Finding activities to do, on their own.  Not burning down the house, on their own.  It is a lot to ask of them for sure.  But this week the boys have really stepped up and done a great job at not only keeping an eye on the girls, but actually playing with them things like Wii and other games, watching movies with them, and making sure they eat when they are supposed too.  I think there was a lot of laughter in our house this week.

So today's random act is truly random, and not even realized by those who were doing it.


RAK 85 - Remembering Our sweet Aunty Helen

March 26

Today was a sad sad day.

The warm and loving Rachar corner of heaven received it's newest member early in the morning as my Aunty Helen passed away peacefully while surrounded by so many of those who loved her most.

Times like these ALWAYS makes us go back in our minds and remember the times we shared.

The first memory that flooded back to me was the time, in 2010, when my Aunty Helen and Uncle Lloyd joined my family at our long time favorite camping place out by Nordegg - a place called Chungo Creek.  We call it Chungo for short.

My family has spent many a night sleeping in tents out by the old trapper's cabin on the bank of the creek - about 5-6 miles away from the nearest road - quads being the only way in, and the only way out...

As we became softer in our older ages... we would camp in campers just off the nearest road, and ride quads in and spend the day fishing in the best spots along the creek that we had come to know so well over the years, and seeing some of Alberta most beautiful and untouched terrain.

Chungo was my brothers MOST favorite place.  No one could maneuver the muskeg on a quad with a trailer full of camping supplies quite like him.  He knew every fishing hole along that creek, and had a funny fish story to go along with each one.  Chungo is where he was most peaceful, it is where he thrived.

When My brother passed in 2000, we created a monument there in his honor.

 Wes was also very special to Lloyd and Helen.  He lived with them for a time while he was working and going to school in the town by where they lived.  They really wanted to go in and see this special place.

 They both hopped on quads and prepared to travel for over an hour on rough terrain, and through 12 creek crossings to get to where we needed to go

little did we know at this pint that my dad's quad would stall in 5 of the deepest creek crossings.

 After the 12th crossing, we climbed the bank of the creek, and you could finally see Wes's rock.

We quadded up as close as we could, and then Aunty decided that since she travelled all that way, she better manouever down the hill to see it right close up.

After spending some quiet time with them at the rock, we quadded a short distance across the meadow to the trappers cabin...  We had to share the whole experience. :)

Today's random act was to openly share and honor these memories.

Memories of how these two amazing and adventurous people hopped on the back of a quad, in their eighties, to share in something so special to our family.  They had heard about what we had done out there, and they were determined to see it.  Once they set their mind, there was no stalled quad, no bumpy road, no deep creek, no down pouring of rain, and no steep inclines that were going to stop them.

I get a lump in my throat as I type.  I don't know if there is any way I could possibly express how MUCH this meant to us.

Dear sweet Aunty Helen thank you for your kind and thoughtful ways, your generous heart, and your adventurous spirit... you are SO greatly missed.  We love you...  Be sure to give my brother a hug from us all when you see him.



On behalf of the Kornel/Peters Family.


RAK 84 - Load lifted

March 25

A busy day in the K-P household. My first payday of the year since starting the bushiness and working on a contract basis.  So a day full of paying bills that were overdue, refilling the empty cupboards and fridge, and of course celebrating!  Our amazing kids have been great at not complaining (too much) about the lack of treats and the reduction in our restaurant meals.  So for RAK 84 we will take the family for a nice dinner to show appreciation for everyone's support over the past few months.

And once all are settled in bed for the night, a glass of wine with my beautiful and ever supportive wife in celebration.


RAK 83 - Pickup at the Airport.

March 24

The in-laws come home tonight from San Francisco, a late flight arriving after midnight.  They insisted that they would catch a cab home from the airport since it was such a late flight.  Well, no we can't have that.  So for today's Random act I will be picking them up at the airport unannounced.


UPDATE - The airport pickup was appreciated and Coreena even came along.  We had a lot of laughs just waiting in the airport for the flight to arrive. It was a great night. 

RAK 82 - how 'bout a little Facetime?

March 23

Today is my Dad's Birthday!

He works out of the country, so instead of coming straight home this time,  he and my Mom made plans to meet up in San Francisco for a very well deserved mini vacation to mark this occasion.

How does one communicate birthday wishes in this day and age... FaceTime of course!  Except he has never used it, and has NO clue at all that it even exists...  But, he does have an iPhone, so we are one step in the right direction...  Now ...  to just teach him how to use it... from afar... haha

Today's RAK involves several text messages on how to get him connected to the hotel WiFi... and then a few more on how to make a FaceTime call.  It took some time, lots of patience, a few giggles, and a couple of tries... but we got to see his face on his birthday!

Happy Birthday Dad! <3



The Kornel/Peters Family

RAK 81 - I Hear You.

March 22

Today was a day FULL of meetings, mostly to deal with the Beaumont Blues festival related business.  Meetings with a couple potential sponsors to discuss the festival and how they can be a part of it.  I am very much all business when it comes to these types of situations, but today I made an extra effort to take the time and relate to those I met with on a more personal level.  Asking about their day and week, and REALLY listening to what they said ... hearing them.  Definitely something I need to be more aware of and do more often.

In addition to the running between meetings I took the time to bring my wife a coffee at work.  Again a small token of my appreciation for her, but it was well received.


UPDATE ... the efforts must have paid off, both sponsorship's came through with everything I had asked for !!! 

Tuesday, 30 April 2013

RAK 80 - Ring THE CRAP out of that Bell

March 21

The first day of spring.  The symbol of new beginnings, and rejuvenation, and life.

This day also marked the end of Radiation Therapy for one of my very dearest friends.

She came, she saw, and she TOTALLY kicked some cancer ass.

Today she got to ring the bell that indicated the end of this part of her journey, and the beginning of the next... a TRUE 'DAY ONE'.

Today's RAK involves me shedding countless tears throughout the day for her...  Constant well wishes sent her way, and the standing up and clapping with tears streaming down my face as I watched the video she sent of the actual bell ringing, moments after it happened.

This girl, in her actions, exemplifies the definition of 'grace', she is adored by all those she meets, and remains a true inspiration...

Everyday I wake up feeling so grateful she is among my nearest and dearest.



On behalf of The Kornel/Peters Family

RAK 79 - Remebering the details

March 20

Sometime last year, my hairdresser needed to take a leave of absence.  No big deal ... except if you are like me, and have been going to the same girl for nearly 13 years!

I continued to go to the salon, and sought out a replacement stylist until mine returned to work.  I had tried a couple - kind of whom ever would see me when I needed to hide those pesky greys.

I love connecting with people, and when you are in the salon chair for a couple of hours, it gives you ample opportunity to chat and get to know the person who you are spending that time with.

I had a great chat one day with the girl who was coloring my hair...  She is about my age, had never married, and we had similar tastes in music.  We talked about her niece, and their plans to someday go to Paris, we talked about her new favorite painter, and her latest crush.

I started seeing a different girl on a bit more of a regular basis, as my regular stylist was not going to be returning any time soon, so I needed to just settle in with someone else.

On this day, I went to the salon to have my hair done, but who I was booked to see had some double bookings. She put my color on, but when it was done processing, she needed to have someone else wash my hair.

The girl that happened to be available was the one whom I had the lovely conversation with about six months earlier!  I called her by name, asked about her niece and their Paris fund - I shared the story of my friend recently having been there...I asked about her favorite painter, and she ran to the back to get her phone to show photos of some of his latest work.  I asked about her crush, and she had several stories about their communications, and meetings while he was in town on business...  She was SO surprised that I had remembered all the details, and was so happy to share her stories with someone who really wanted to hear them.

It was really neat to catch up with her, and I loved her excitement when she saw that I remembered all the little details.  I won't soon forget her smile...

I left the salon that day not only with freshly colored hair, but also with a happy and light heart.



On behalf of the Kornel/Peters Family

RAK 78 - Pot luck wha? --- (oh crap)

March 19

Today had a bit of a bitter sweet start.  Emma woke with Pink Eye, so it meant that, with my Mom away, Jeremy and I had to adjust our schedules, and see who could spend the day home with her...

I got chosen, and although it was hard to miss work at such a busy time, I was so pleased I would get to spend the day with my Emma...  Perhaps there was even a bit of gratitude for this bought of Pink Eye...

We spent the morning drawing and doodling when I suddenly remembered that I had committed to bringing a slow cooker dish to the School to contribute to the Pot Luck dinner the parents put on for the teachers during parent teacher interviews...!  I hadn't put it in my google calendar when I made the commitment... and in our world, if it isn't in the calendar, it doesn't happen...

Also, I don't often cook, nor do I do much of the grocery shopping... so I am sure I was completely out of my mind when I actually signed up to do this.  In most times like these, I usually voluntell Jeremy to cook something yummy - but in order to pull that off... I would actually have to TELL him.

But there I was in this predicament of my own creating, and I REFUSED to admit defeat.  I clicked into high gear - searched my recipe books, did a mad dash to the grocery store, and prepared a fantastic batch of Calico Baked Beans!  And yes, I even got it to the school on time.  *phew* ...

It would appear that the universe had my back with the pink eye thing... Had I gone to work, I would have been unable to fulfill this commitment. - It was cleared up and she was fit for school the very next day...

Learning:  Keep the google calendar up to date...



on Behalf of the Kornel/Peters Family

RAK 77 - Thanks for thinking of me.

March 18

Wow... Yesterday left me with hundreds of birthday messages on my Facebook wall, in my inbox, and via imessage...  I was COMPLETELY overwhelmed, and felt SO very loved...

So, on this day, I sat for hours and responded to each and every message sent to me...  It was fantastic!  I was able to read every message when I wasn't on the run, and think of the person who sent it to me, and respond to them from my heart...

I can honestly say I know some pretty amazing people...

So very blessed,


on behalf of The Kornel/Peters Family

RAK 76 Happy Birthday to US !

March 17

I am very fortunate to share my birthday with my lovely and amazing wife. This year we chose to forego the date night, the dinner at a restaurant, and all that couples stuff that we typically enjoy on out B day, and we spent the day at home with our family.  Sure the fact that I haven't yet received a paycheck in 2013 is a bit of a motivation to stay in, but more so the opportunity to spend some time with our kids and each other is pretty great and hard to pass up.

The girls were excited to decorate a cake for us, and of course there was some green beer seeing as it was also St. Patricks day.  It was a great night and I can't think of any better way to spend my birthday!

Here are some pics from the night....

RAK 75 - Support the arts

March 16

I had previously mentioned local Edmonton artist Mae Anderson, well she has a part in todays RAK also.  Tonight is her EP release event and we have decided to attend, and we have invited a very good friend, and music fan,  to join us.  So not only are we supporting this great local artist but we are introducing a fellow music fan to something she hasn't yet heard.  Should be a great night


UPDATE: It was no surprise, but the show was amazing.  Great job by Mae and her band who I am lucky to be friends with.  I received some "interesting" news via text during the show, but that  resulted in what should be an exciting new adventure ... details of which will follow. 

RAK 74 - Good Luck Ryley...

March 15...

Well, all the shopping is done for the proper shoes and pants... and this day, Ryley headed out into the land of the blizzard for his first ever job!

He was determined to be early, and was quite anxious to get out the door... Jeremy was standing with key in hand waiting to give him a ride.

My Mom heart wouldn't let him walk out the door without several hugs... and a Good luck charm.

When we were making our mod podge rocks (click here)...  I created one for him that said "loved".

When I passed it to him, he smiled at me, dropped it in his pocket, and headed out the door...

We know he will completely rock it! (-hehe puny...)



On behalf of the Kornel/Peters Family.

RAK 73 Ski Trip with Amber

March 14

Over the years I have always tried to attend the school ski trips with all the kids.  They are typically a couple a year to Rabbit Hill, and for the older kids a trip to Jasper once in a while.

For this trip I was not planning to attend, I had a full plate at work and just couldn't get away.  We explained to Amber that she would have to go with out a parent this time, and she accepted (though begrudgingly). On the morning of March 14 we packed her up and made sure she had everything she needed for a great day of skiing. She was set.  She was accepting the lack of 'dad' in her day.  She was going to have fun.  But it was then, at the last minute that I was struck by a feeling that I was making a mistake, that these times and these days were numbered as she and all the kids were getting to a point where they would no longer want mom or dad with them on their ski and field trips.  So with a last minute change out of my work clothes, and an email to work, I was going skiing.

The excitement in Amber's face at hearing this news was an instant sign that this decision was right.  The snow was falling and the sun shinning and it was an incredible day of skiing and snowboarding at the hill.  I have no regrets and I know that this random act was worth every penny of lost income. A clear reminder to stay in tune with what is truly important in life.


RAK 72 - You Rock...


Today my girlies wanted to do something special to show their teachers a little extra appreciation...

They sat down and carefully chose words that best suited each of their teachers, and cut them out of Brave Girl tissue paper....

Get yours here....

Then chose their polished river rocks...


and out came the Mod Podge..

glossy of course!

and ... voila ....

their masterpieces...

The teachers loved them!


On behalf of the Kornel/Peters Family...

Monday, 29 April 2013

RAK 71 - Donate to help buy Dahlia House

March 12

Our very first Random Act of Kindness that kicked off our year of kind acts was to create 'Truth Cards' as a family that were hand carried to the Philippines and given to women who were either rescued from, or still trapped in the horror that is Human Trafficking. (Read about our RAK One - here)

Amber's card made this post! (it is the 16th one down)

Here is Aidan's Card hanging in the Manila Safe house.

Because this issue is huge, and on-going, we remain committed to doing whatever we can to help these women.

Melody  poignantly writes about her trip in a few post on the Blog found on the Brave Girl Website...

Click here to read ~ Part 1 - Brave Girl Human Trafficking Travel Journal  - I encourage you to read her words...

In the above post Melody tries her best to put her experience into words, as she implores us to think of these women as souls...
Her identity is not a whore. Or even a rescued whore. She is not a whore.Her identity is not a prostitute. Her identity is not a former prostitute. She is not a prostitute.Her identity is not of a product to be sold. She is not a product.She is not less than. She is the same as.She is a beautiful beautiful beautiful soul. 

She goes on to say
I am angry. I am heart broken. I am confused about how this can be happening. I have nightmares and I think about it every day. I also know that I am exactly where I am supposed to be and that I will never be the same after this. I am grateful, thankful, compelled…..changed. I can not stay silent and I REFUSE TO DO NOTHING….. 
and then

I just want you to imagine the most disgusting cesspool and lake of smelly, disgusting, vile, poisonous, puke inducing sewer that you could ever imagine…just imagine it for a minute…without anything attached to it….don’t think of it as an analogy…just as what it is…
Imagine that you know where it is….you know how it smells, (it is the sewer, it is stinking, rotting garbage and filth…there are flies and rats all around it) so… you know that you just want to stay as far away as possible from it………and once you know about it…you learn to. (of course) You teach your children and friends to stay away from it…you talk about how much it stinks, how poisonous it is…how much disease it is spreading…how you must do all that you can to stay away from it…….and of course…it would be great for   it to be cleaned up….but for now….just stay away….it is so gross, so smelly, so disgusting…so dangerous, so vile….so absolutely opposite from everything good and true and beautiful and healthy…..
Ok….got that picture?
Now…imagine a girl that you love more than anything that gets thrown into it. Maybe she can swim, maybe she can’t. Maybe she even decided to jump in because someone told her that if she does it for a while, she can have the life she wants to have.
But she is in there, ok?
She is treading water, or she is drowning, but she is in there.
You see… of the problems with human trafficking (specifically sex trafficking) is that we turn away when we see it…..because it is disgusting….like this lake of sewer. It is dangerous, it is smelly, it is offensive. So we make our path in a way that we can avoid being near it. We orchestrate our life so that we do not have to smell it or see it. When we do approach it…..we look for a moment and then we look away. We look away before we see the souls that are in it. We only see the sewer, we only smell the smell. We only choke on the vileness that oozes off of it, making our eyes burn. We look away before we see the soul that is drowning or treading water in it.
What if it was your daughter, or your sister, or your niece? What if it was your best friend’s daughter or sister or niece?
We have got to stop thinking the girl is part of the sewer.
We have got to stop looking away when we see the sewer….because she is in there. 

Meloody then wrote Part 2 of that post.

Click here to read ~ Melody with "Manila Part 2" - Lets help buy Dahlia House!

In the above post Melody Talks about the girls
She was young…..she had dreams… some point she started being seen as a beautiful little body instead of beautiful little soul. At some point she started being seen as a product that could bring in money….or a product to hold onto for on-demand sexual pleasure…or even just to torture. So……she was tricked. Or she was stolen. She was told that she was going to be working as a waitress or a home helper…….and it wasn’t true. She was taken somewhere where she couldn’t communicate with anyone who could help her…and even if she could have reached someone, she couldn’t have told them where she was…because she didn’t know where she was. She was threatened, put into debt, and made to feel like trash…….and then used and used and used and used and used. Each one has a different rescue story….all are incredibly brave. But each girl was a little girl who had no one making sure she was safe…no one looking out for her…..and a whole lot of powerful people using her………..

She goes on to say that the people from the organization "Wipe Every Tear" have found another location for a new Safe House that is able to accommodate MORE girls that are rescued...

She ends her post with this video...

Help buy Dahlia House...

After reading her blog posts and watching her video, I went over to the Razoo page and donated on behalf of the Kornel/Peters Family...  then went over to Facebook and encouraged all of my friends to do the same.

RAK 71 - a small part of something WAY bigger.

Sending these girls SO much Love.


On behalf of the Kornel/Peters Family.



With the help of some very dedicated people, and many many just wishing to help... Enough money was raised to purchase Dahlia house!!

They are still accepting donations to help with furnishings and such...

Click here to read more.

RAK 70 Happy Birthday

March 11

Ok I know most people wouldn't consider calling my father on his birthday a random act of kindness, however I have a history of missing these type of events especially for those who live away and I don't see everyday.  So today's RAK is not only a call to my dad to say happy birthday, but also a commitment to stay on top of things like this and not miss any important birthdays/ anniversaries, etc for those near or far.


RAK 69 - Oz the Great and Powerful

March 10

Since seeing the initial trailer for Oz - The Great and Powerful - Emma was really excited to see it...

It had become a topic of conversation for her and her friends at school during lunch and recess breaks.  She and her friends were very excited to see it.

This Sunday afternoon, we were invited as a family to go to the movie with the family of a recess chatting friend of Emma's.

Weekends are a fairly cherished commodity around here... and we usually have them planned to the minute in order to accomplish all that needs to be accomplished during it's duration.

We threw caution to the wind, and bravely agreed to start the work week without having all the laundry done, and without having the bathrooms cleaned so we could accept this invitation.

Not only did this RAK put a smile on the face of our Emma, it allowed us to spend some time and share some laughs with some pretty cool people...



On Behalf of the Kornel/Peters Family

RAK 68 - I meet friends in unlikely places...

March 9 - On this day, Jeremy and I went for a 'date night' to a night club to hear some live music, and a few laughs.

We don't often attend this establishment unless Jeremy is playing, so it was really nice to have him in the crowd with me, instead of up on stage.

Partway through the night, I slipped off to the restroom, and found the line up excruciatingly long for my super full bladder.

The girl in line-up in front of me was in pretty much the same boat, and we stood there willing with all our might for the slow line up to move faster...

I glanced over at the unfairly near vacant men's room, grabbed the hand of my new friend, and together we took our - now dire - situation into our own hands.

The fellas were gracious and made way for us to quickly do what needed to be done, and exit.

We ended up chatting for an extended period of time after our initial exchange, and found that our spirits were meant to somehow come together.  She is an aspiring artist - as am I - and it would appear that we both have waged a similar battle against our lack of confidence in our work... She study's event management, and has been a part of planning some pretty important events for some of our Countries politicians... and I have been a part of planning an event for some of Canada's well known musicians...

As this days random act of Kindness, I reached out and helped someone ... ummm... in need... ;), and ended up with a new friend.




On behalf of The Kornel /Peters Family.

RAK 67 - Outing with a Friend

Mar 8

Called up a friend and invited her to go out for a couple drinks and check out a local band.  We had recently been involved with a musical project that ended abruptly, so I don't think either of us was too sure of where each other stood.  So it was great to get together and mend that fence and realize we were both on the same page.  A great night was had.

RAK 66 Going Above

March 7

I have a hard time saying 'no'.  I had to pass up an opportunity and I hate to not be involved.  As many know for the past 6+ years I have been involved in the Beaumont Blues and Roots Festival.  It is something I am very passionate about and it is a big part of who I am now and what I hope my legacy will be.  This week there was some work to be done on some documents for the festival permit, so this RAK is partly the fact that I went above what was required to put together a high quality document, but it is also the kindness my amazing wife showed in her support and assistance with not only the preparation of this but also the final packaging, binding and delivery to the powers that be.

It is pretty great having someone so amazing to share my life with, so for this and all the kindness she shows I am grateful.


The Books !

RAK 65 - Remembering

March 6

Today our RAK is a remembrance.  Stompin' Tom Connors was a Canadian folk music legend, and there are many in Canada who have at least one memory tied to a Stompin' Tom song.  For me it was Margo's Got the Cargo, a song that came out when I was in high school.  I had my long hair and my electric guitar and a cassette tape collection that included many AC-DC, Iron Maiden, Metallica, Led Zepplin and similar artists.  So for me to go out and buy a Stompin' Tom tape was really saying something.  After hearing Margo's Cargo on Much music I was hooked, and I bought that tape, still have it to this day.  He was the real deal, a guitar and a voice and a whole lot of life experience.  Listening to Stompin' Tom actually changed the way I thought about songs and the way I wrote songs, and my acoustic guitar starting getting a lot more play time.

Like I said I am sure most of us has a Stompin' Tom story, feel free to share yours in the comments.  In the mean time please enjoy Margo's Cargo.

RAK 64 - Promote a local artist

March 5

Yesterdays RAK dealt with a local business, today a local artist.  I am fortunate to live in an area where there is so much great local talent.  Musician, songwriters, singers, so much great talent in the general E-town area.

But for today I will draw your attention to one artist in particular because she has an EP coming out soon and because I am fortunate to be friends with a couple great musicians that play with her. Mae Anderson is based in Edmonton and I can't say enough great stuff about her music.  Have a listen and be sure to support her by purchasing her songs in itunes.

Here is a sample...


RAK 63 - Promote a Local Entrepreneur

March 4

In a world where convenience and mass production is so prevalent it is more important that ever to recognize the independent business people.  They are the ones putting in countless hours, sleepless nights, and taking the risks to produce quality innovative products.  One such craftsman is a friend of mine from right here in Beaumont and using his experience as a musician combined with his skills as a programmer he has built a CNC machine in his garage and he is using it to produce some of the most innovative guitar effects pedal boards I have ever seen.

So for today I have shared this with my contacts on Facebook and in some guitar forums, and now here, so hopefully some word will spread and his venture will see some success.

Check it out at

RAK 62 - Baking for Nana

March 3 - One of the ways my mom expresses her love and devotion to the people around her is through her cooking.

If one of 'those' life even has occurred  and you perhaps don't feel much like cooking, my Mom is among the first at your door with a box of freezer friendly food she spent the day preparing.  You know it will be the best comfort food going, not only because she is a fantastic cook, but because you know she has prepared each dish with lots and lots of love.

There are times during super busy work weeks, I have come home to my house on more than one occasion to a fully prepared meal, all my laundry done, and my house spotless...  It is enough to set me on my butt racked with sobs of gratitude.

As this days random act of kindness, we decided to show some of this kind of love back to the woman who so easily gives it to others.

Jeremy prepared a batch of buns, and tray of cinnamon twists, and as soon as they were out of the oven, he drove Emma and Amber to "Nana's house" to deliver them.

Her recounting of the exchange that day on Facebook...
8:30 PM door bell rang and my two girlies were there with two fresh buns and some cinnamon twists and a homemade card that read "Dear Nana.I love you to the moon and back.You are the best Nana in the whole world.Happy March." I asked "Did you girls come out this time of night in your jammies just to bring me this?" Amber "Yes and to give you a hug!" A great surprise and one of the sweetest Nana memories ever!

I think I would call that a VERY successful RAK.

So grateful for her...



On behalf of the Kornel/Peters Family

RAK 61 - A minute ... to win it

March 2

So, on this Saturday, Jeremy and I spent the day representing and promoting the Beaumont Blues and Roots Festival at our town's Spring Awareness event.  This alone could probably constitute an act of kindness... But like most days, it is hard to narrow down which act we are going to capture and write about in this blog.

For this days RAK, the creative and adventurous spirits of our girls won out over the Spring Awareness Event...

Jeremy and I were exhausted after a busy work week, add to that an early Saturday morning wake up to get girls to dance, a boy to work, and then heading over to set up for the Spring Awareness...  We came home from Spring Awareness ready to veg quietly on the couch hoping that our girls would be otherwise occupied so we could let our brains rest.

They, however, had other plans.  :)

In our absence, our girls created several "Minute to win it" challenges and had huge plans of teaming up against us to compete in a family Minute to Win It championship... Kids against grown-ups...

Our knee jerk response was to decline their offer saying we were to tired to lift a muscle... but their enthusiasm and obvious preparations quickly turned our 'nos' into a 'yeses'.

We bounced tiny rubber balls into plastic cups, we threw handfuls of pencils in the air and caught them (with one hand!), flipped bottle caps, built bridges out of cards, and we even scooted across the floor on our buts on a fluffy mat trying to see who got the best time...  (the grown-ups KICKED some kid butt... or at least that's how I remember it... :) )

The prize?  Huge smiles and belly laughs...  Completely worth every minute!  ... to win it... !


on behalf of the Kornel/Peters Family

RAK 60 - Please take our seats...

March 1

Today we celebrate Ryley getting his FIRST JOB EVER!!  We are so excited for him, so finally gave into his longstanding request to go and try Wild Wing in Beaumont.

We are a large family, so when we go out, we must get there early - usually well before the dinner hour -  to avoid standing in line for a long long time...

We had our dinner, and Ryley ordered his wings, and a great time was had by all!

We were just finishing up our dinner, and Jeremy was paying the bill, when another family entered the now full establishment, and was about to turn and leave when they saw there was no tables available.

That's when our random act of kindness muscle did it's mighty flex, and the wee-est of the family suggested that we give up our table to this hungry family!

I quickly approached them and offered our table.  I indicated we were just leaving, and that our table was theirs if they wanted it.

The new incoming patrons were so very grateful, as was the serving staff...  It is a fairly small establishment, and when the Kornel/Peter's family is seated, we take up almost half the seats...!



on behalf of the Kornel/Peter's family



Here is a shot of Ryley's first pay stub ever!  We know he will succeed in whatever he attempts!!

Way to go Ryley!!